This page contains MAJOR SPOILERS. It is highly recommended to beat the game before reading anything here.
The lore presented here is only one of many unconfirmed theories about Baby Steps' deeper narrative.
This is a community interpretation, not confirmed canon.
Nate, the protagonist of the game, is a thirty-five-year-old “failson” who lives in his parents’ basement. Through dream sequences, we can see that Nate felt neglected for most of his childhood. His parents seem to have always favored his younger sister, Cassie, though whether this is because of Cassie's personality or their responsibility to her is unclear. Either way, this leads to Nate becoming socially awkward and struggling with adversity throughout his teens.
In his young-adult life, Nate struggled to find his path, working at burger joints and trying to become a professional DJ, both of which failed. Due to his constant shortcomings, Nate sees his life amounting to nothing. As the people around him grow, Nate remains stagnant and can’t see himself accomplishing anything.
Nate’s core issue is his inability to ask people for help. In the past, whenever he struggled, people would call him names like “beta male,” and that has made him even more introverted. It’s clear that Nate has also seen therapists, as in the afterlife, when Horace asks Nate for advice, all he can do is recite generic therapy advice like “put your best foot forward” or “I’m better than who I was yesterday.”
At the start of the game, we find Nate in a deep state of depression. He has recently learned that his sister is getting a big promotion and has been struggling to come to terms with the realization that even his younger sister is more successful than him. Upstairs, his mother, who has been coddling him for most of his life, is calling him to eat, whilst his father talks about wanting to teach him discipline. They do not realize that on this night, perhaps minutes before, Nate poisoned himself in his room. On the brink of death, we begin our story at the edge of the afterlife.
Jim is the first person Nate meets in the afterlife. He is a bald, middle-aged man who seems similar to Charon, the figure from Greek mythology who guides the dead through the afterlife. This connection can be seen in Jim’s eagerness to help Nate whenever he becomes trapped in an area he cannot escape.
Throughout the world, Jim appears to have built wooden platforms, bridges, and scaffolds in places where someone might fall. He also leaves behind bottles of beer and pizza at many of these sites. Based on his construction worker outfit, it can be assumed that Jim has worked in the afterlife for a long time, and it is clear that his good deeds often go unnoticed.
When Nate climbs the Manbreaker, Jim seems to feel that Nate no longer needs him. After this, Jim “kills himself” and can no longer be found. My theory is that Jim does not truly exist for Nate forever; instead, he only exists to help new arrivals until they are ready to move forward on their own.
This guy sells stuff. But if it's always free, is it really a sale? This keeps me up at night.
Mike stumbles across Nate. at the Old Salt Mine campsite. He is eager to reach the summit and finds it odd that Nate does not have a map, shoes or a grappling hook. It appears Jim had already offered him help, and Mike took all the help he could get. I get the feeling Mike is the kind of person that people took care of, but he did not take care of himself. It's unclear whether Mike killed himself, but there is a small implication of it when Nate finds him peering over the edge of Lemming Leap, and romantices about jumping. "You can't die in here." Nate says it seems kind of pointless jumping, losing all that progress. I believe this is the writer telling us that suicide is not worth it, because everything you did becomes worthless, even if it was not much progress at all.
Near the end of the game, Mike regrets ever getting help and burns his map. This leads to him being pinned by a rock, calling for Jim's help. It's unclear whether Mike's problem in life was that he never did anything on his own, and when he was left without help, it lead him to suicide. The place where he was crushed, Jim had boarded up, but Mike ignored it.
Ethan is the donkey character wearing a white long-sleeve button-up. I think he may be the devil. He tries to tempt everyone into getting him cigarettes, claiming it's for the good of everyone.
Jesse is the playful donkey that that tries to get Nate to relax, be free, and stick up to Ethan. He tells Nate to do what Nate wants, not to listen to Ethan.
Moose is thoughtful donkey Nate bonds with in the afterlife. Moose cares alot about what other people think about him and Nate empathizes with that. Moose is the only character that tries to cheer Nate up and he's the only character Nate asks for help. In the end, they become close friends and live together in Moose's cabin.
The Donkeys represent the "In" crowd. Or, perhaps they represent the social strings that pull on you through life. Each donkey their own personality, but as a group they feel like a personified version of FOMO (the fear of missing out), and it seems like Nate is always on the outside. Nate doesn't take any of their advice, and it makes me wonder if that is a part of the message as well. Nate saying no to everyone, is like saying no to life. Many believe the donkeys are Pinnochio-related. Others believe they are the ones too stubborn to change their ways, so they turned into donkeys. The acual canon remains unclear.
Ranger Hat:
The Ranger Hat dream seems to represent the fear of disappointing a parent. Nate’s father gives him a simple task: gather wood to keep the fire alive. However, Nate’s first attempt is not good enough, and his second attempt fails completely. When he returns, his father is gone and the fire is dead. The dying fire may symbolize lost approval, childhood security, or the fading connection between father and son. Philosophically, this dream suggests some people spend their lives trying to earn approval from someone who may never give it, and by the time they realize it, the opportunity is already gone.
Propeller Hat:
The Propeller Hat dream appears to be about being forced into independence before feeling ready. Nate is afraid to enter the water, but neither of his parents helps him. He goes in alone, is carried away by the tide, and eventually drifts into the sky and darkness. Water often symbolizes uncertainty, danger, or emotional overwhelm. In this dream, Nate is not taught how to face the world; he is simply expected to do it. Philosophically, it reflects the fear of being abandoned during a moment when guidance is needed most.
Bucket Hat:
The Bucket Hat dream seems to represent the fear of losing control. Nate begins with an ordinary need, but it becomes impossible to contain. Every urinal, plant, bucket, and container overflows until even the sewer fills with pee. The absurdity of the situation makes it funny, but it also points to a deeper anxiety: once something starts going wrong, Nate cannot stop it. Philosophically, this dream may represent shame, bodily embarrassment, or the fear that private problems will become public disasters.
Crown:
The Crown dream represents the anxiety of everyday responsibility. Nate only wants to pick up a burger, but the errand turns into the realization that he is late for work. His co-workers, employer, and first customer are all disappointed in him. The dream shows how ordinary obligations can suddenly pile up and become overwhelming. Philosophically, it suggests a fear that adulthood is a series of responsibilities Nate is always arriving late to, and no matter what he does, someone is waiting to judge him.
Frog Hat:
The Frog Hat dream explores sexual embarrassment and the inability to be honest about shame. Nate is invited upstairs by a young woman, but after prematurely ejaculating, he is sent away. His friends comfort him by calling her a bitch, though it is unclear whether they know what really happened. This uncertainty is important because it suggests Nate may be hiding the truth to protect his pride. Philosophically, the dream reflects how people often disguise vulnerability as rejection, anger, or blame because admitting humiliation feels too painful.
GoPro Helmet:
The GoPro Helmet dream appears to represent fear of adulthood as a prison. Nate is told he is too old to sleep in his parents’ bed and must go to his own room. Instead of finding a normal bedroom, he descends into a dark, dungeon-like basement and navigates a long labyrinth. At the end, he finds an older version of himself locked behind prison bars. Philosophically, this dream suggests that growing up does not feel like freedom to Nate. It feels like being led deeper into darkness, only to discover that his future self is trapped.
Tyrolean Hat:
The Tyrolean Hat dream represents the impossible confusion of responsibility, especially parental responsibility. Nate is sent to get formula for a crying baby, but the situation keeps changing. The formula becomes breast milk, the baby is not hungry, the milk is stolen, and then it becomes dinner that must be put back. Every time Nate thinks he has solved the problem, the rules change. Philosophically, the dream reflects the anxiety that no matter what choice you make, someone will tell you it was wrong. The crying baby in the road at the end suggests that responsibility never disappears; it only returns in another form.
Donkey Hood:
The Donkey Hood dream is about vulnerability, exposure, and shame. Nate wakes in a doctor’s office surrounded by medical equipment and health charts. The doctor asks personal questions and examines Nate “downstairs,” forcing him into a position where he cannot hide. Afterward, Nate tries to escape, but instead transforms into a monster and chases the girl out of the room. Philosophically, this dream suggests that shame can distort a person’s view of themselves. Nate does not simply feel embarrassed; he becomes monstrous, as if exposure has revealed something ugly inside him.
Cardboard Box Hat:
The Cardboard Box Hat dream is about the fear of wasting one’s life. Nate attends several reunions, and everyone around him seems accomplished or on a meaningful path. They ask what he has been doing, and each conversation reveals that he has accomplished nothing. The dream ends at Nate’s own funeral, where he places himself in a coffin and dies. Philosophically, this is an existential dream. It is not only about death, but about reaching the end of life and believing there was no purpose, progress, or achievement to show for it.
Trophy Hat:
The Trophy Hat dream represents envy and the desire for recognition without earning it. Nate travels across the world to interrupt his sister’s ceremony, where she is being awarded the Achievement of Excellence. Instead of celebrating her, he steals the award and flees. Philosophically, this dream suggests that envy is not always about wanting success itself. Sometimes it is about wanting the recognition someone else received because their success makes your own failure feel unbearable. Nate does not earn the trophy; he takes it because he cannot stand seeing someone else receive it.
Bird’s Nest Hat:
The Bird’s Nest Hat dream represents the passage of time and the loss of childhood. Nate wakes outside his house, goes inside, and is sent to get milk. Each time he returns, the house is smaller and more time seems to have passed. His parents remain familiar, but the home keeps shrinking until it becomes a mobile home. When Nate crawls into bed with them, they tell him he is too big to sleep with them now. Philosophically, this dream shows that childhood cannot be returned to, even if the people and places from it still exist. Time keeps moving, and the home Nate wants to come back to is disappearing.
Sunglasses:
The Sunglasses dream is one of the more hopeful dreams. Nate wakes in complete darkness and feels around for a way out. Eventually, light begins to shine through, and he escapes the cave onto a beautiful island. Philosophically, this dream can represent awakening, rebirth, or enlightenment. Unlike many of the other dreams, it does not end in humiliation or failure. Instead, Nate moves from darkness into light. It suggests that even in confusion or isolation, there may still be a way out.
Paper Boat Hat:
The Paper Boat Hat dream represents the fear of entering life while everyone else already seems comfortable in it. Nate wakes on a yacht surrounded by peers who are partying, making out, and swimming in the ocean. He tries to talk to people, but he remains separate from them. Eventually, they tell him to jump in, and he does. Philosophically, the dream suggests anxiety about participation. Nate is not just afraid of the water; he is afraid of joining the world that everyone else already seems to understand.
Hard Hat:
The Hard Hat dream represents the fear of making the wrong choice under pressure. Nate is called to help with an emergency construction job and is told to retrieve a wrench before “the whole thing” explodes. He finds three tools but does not know which one is correct. As he climbs upward, he realizes he is moving alongside a monstrous amalgamation of human body parts. At the mouth of the creature, he drops the tool inside. Philosophically, this dream turns ordinary uncertainty into horror. It suggests that when Nate is placed under pressure, even a simple task can feel like a catastrophic decision with monstrous consequences.
Taken together, the dreams suggest that Baby Steps is not simply about climbing a mountain but about ascending through the weight of a lifetime of regret. Each dream forces Nate to relive a different insecurity: disappointing his father, failing as a partner, struggling with responsibility, envying others, fearing an empty life, or believing his future held only disappointment. If the opening scene truly depicts Nate's suicide, the mountain can be interpreted as a symbolic journey through purgatory, where every step upward requires him to confront the beliefs that convinced him he was never enough. The dreams are no longer random surreal episodes but fragments of a life defined by self-doubt. The climb becomes more than a physical challenge; it becomes Nate's final struggle toward acceptance, redemption, or peace, and we see that in his behavior as he climbs. After Nate makes his wish, he seems more confident, realizing that he was always capable. What I find especially compelling about this interpretation is that it gives the gameplay itself thematic weight. Baby Steps is mechanically about repeatedly falling down and getting back up. If Nate has reached a point where he believed life itself wasn't worth continuing, then the act of continuing to climb despite constant failure becomes the central metaphor of the entire game. Every stumble is followed by another attempt. In that reading, the mountain isn't just an obstacle—it is the possibility that, even after a life dominated by shame and regret, there is still value in taking one more step forward.